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Conflict between spouses March 22, 2008

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“Both husband and wife have to be patient and put up with one another, because everyone makes mistakes, and the one with whom you have to be most patient is the one with whom you live and interacts with most. Neither party should resort to tit-for-tat reactions. If one spouse sees that the other is very angry, he or she should restrain his or her own anger, and not respond immediately.”

For this reason Abu’l-Darda’ said to his wife: “If you see me angry, calm me down, and if I see you angry, I will calm you down, otherwise it will be too difficult to live together.”

The Imaam of Ahl al-Sunnah, Imaam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on him) married ‘Abbaasah bint al-Mufaddal, the mother of his son Saalih, and he used to say of her: “Umm Saalih lived with me for twenty years, and we never argued over the slightest thing.”

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1. Mitashi - April 14, 2008

I feel arguments do not arise in conservative communities…
But if a woman is literate and has the capacity to think, reason, analyse, then definately she would oppose.Man cannot see or could say withstand his wife opinions are different. Men with this nature of women become defensive even without giving a second thought on the views expressed by the woman.Some cases its vice versa.
So arguments are normal in all relations.Its only matters what you conclude out of the whole argument.

2. servantofallah - April 20, 2008

marriage will become a bliss if we follow the qur’an and the sunnah, read the tafsir of surah nisa and read the hadith concerning the prophet peace be upon him in his dealing with his family, especially wives and by the permission of Allah , marriage will be amazing, but problems arise with the two extremes, one the jaahiliyah mentality which is what i say goes, and the opposite extreme the imitation of the kuffar, balance and perfection lies in the sunnah of your Messenger peace be upon him .”verily in the Messenger of Allah you have a good example” al ahzab ver 21


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