Who to Marry?? May 5, 2008Posted by shadows15 in Contemporary Issues, Gems and Jewels, Misc, Personality Development, Sisters Section, Worship.
Tags: marriage, naseeha
This is addressed to the brothers, but it equally applies to the sisters.
“Who to Marry” By Shaykh Mashhoor Salmaan (one of the students of Shaykh Al-Albaani)
Translated by: Hisham Assing
Question: I am in the initial stages of seeking knowledge, and I want to get married. Do you advise me to marry (a sister) who is not a student of knowledge?
Answer: I do not advise the Muslim to marry anyone besides a student of knowledge because for you to have the mother (of your children) who is jaahil …then this is an affliction that the mother is ignorant. How will she teach the children? Let’s assume a woman is not pretty, she does not have a beautiful complexion, nor is she tall. However she teaches your children thereby saving them from the fire. Or on the other hand, a mother who is mashaAllaah pretty, attractive, tall, does not teach them the Quraan and causes them to enter into the fire. Who is better? The first or the second? By Allaah the first is better. So success for you and your children…at least she would remind you if you forget, and she could teach you if you don’t know. It is possible to learn from a woman.
Sa’eed Ibn Musayb had a daughter named Faatimah whom the khalifah asked to marry his son, however he refused to do so instead marrying her to one of his students. When the daughter of Imaam Maalik got married, her husband wanted to attend the class of his shaykh, so she asked him “Where are you going?” He replied, “To your father’s class.” She told him, “Have a seat, because the knowledge of my father is memorized in my chest. I will teach it to you.”
Abu Layth As-Samarqandee (D. 539 Hijri) who wrote the book ‘Muqdimmaat fil-Fiqh: Tuhfatul-Fuqahaa‘ also had a daughter named Faatimah whom likewise the khalifah of the Muslims at that time asked for her hand in marriage for his son but he refused. He had a student named Al-Kaasaanee or Al-Kaashaanee who wrote the book ‘Bidaa’i As-Sanaa’i‘ and he was poor but very knowledgeable. He was so highly impressed by his teachers’ book (Tuhfatul-Fuqahaa) that he wrote and explanation for it called ‘Bidaa’i As-Sanaa’i‘. Thus he gave the explanation to his teacher, and similarly he was so highly impressed by his students’ book that he said, “I marry my daughter to you.” This explanation was her mahr. So based on this incident, the saying became very popular during that time ” شرح تحفته وزوجه ابنته – He explained his book so he married his daughter.”
Hence, I do not advise the Muslim to marry anyone besides a student of knowledge, even if you yourself are not a student of knowledge. Because the seeking of knowledge gives life and enlightens – light in one’s life. You know your rights, she knows her rights, and the children are being taught that which is good. This is true happiness in life. This is true happiness in life.
(Transcribed from Shaykh Mashhoor Salmaan’s weekly fatwaa session recorded on 04/28/2007)